What if your worth was never up for debate? How might your life change if you believed that?
We live in a world that convinces us we are flawed, and that something inside us needs fixing. We live in a culture that profits from our insecurities. Ads promise the next solution, self-help books preach constant improvement, and social media feeds paint an endless comparison trap.
But what if that's not true? What if, instead of trying to “fix” ourselves, we need to return to the core of who we've always been?
What If You Were Never Broken In the First Place
This idea isn't new—it's rooted in the ancient concept of T'shuvah, a Hebrew word often translated as “repentance” but far richer in meaning. T'shuvah invites us to “return” to our core goodness, to the wholeness that exists beneath the noise of life. Instead of shame or punishment, it offers love and the chance to reconnect with our true selves.
The Science Behind Self-Compassion
Modern research echoes this wisdom. Dr. Kristin Neff, a leading psychologist, has demonstrated that self-compassion—treating yourself with kindness in moments of failure—leads to greater resilience and long-term growth. Unlike harsh self-criticism, self-compassion fosters genuine change by affirming your worth even when you fall short.
T'shuvah aligns beautifully with this science. It acknowledges that while we sometimes stray, our mistakes don't erase our value. Yet, it warns against two dangerous extremes: feeling “better than” others (grandiosity) or “less than” others (shame). Psychologist Dr. Terry Real describes this as a destructive cycle of contempt—directed outward in grandiosity or inward in self-loathing.
The antidote? Recognizing your inherent worth, embracing your humanity, and connecting with others through shared love and compassion. T'shuvah is not about proving your value or punishing your mistakes. It's about coming home to yourself and living from a place of wholeness.
Five Action Steps to Start Your Journey of T'shuvah
Pause and Reflect
Take a moment to ask yourself: Where do I feel most disconnected from my true self? Write down your thoughts without judgment. Awareness is the first step toward change.Name and Own It
Acknowledge where you've strayed—whether you've harmed yourself, others, or even neglected your values. Take responsibility and consider making amends where needed.Reconnect with Your Goodness
Engage in practices that ground you. Spend time in nature, meditate, pray, or simply breathe deeply. Let these moments remind you of your intrinsic worth and capacity for growth.Take a Small Step Back
Identify one concrete action to realign with your values. This could be repairing a relationship, starting a healthy habit, or pursuing a dream.Celebrate the Turn
Progress isn't perfect, but every step toward your true self is sacred. Acknowledge and celebrate your courage to return.
A Question for Reflection
What's one step you can take today to reconnect with your true self? Write it down, share it with a friend, or meditate on it. The journey back to yourself starts with a single moment of courage.
Until next week,
Jonathan Penner | Founder & Exec Dir. of LifeApp
Resources To Dig Deeper
Book
Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself
Expert advice on how to limit self-criticism and offset its negative effects, enabling you to achieve your highest potential and a more contented, fulfilled life.
-Dr. Kristin Neff
Podcast
T'shuvah!
The transformative journey of returning to your authentic self, embracing growth, healing, and reconnection with your true self.
-Rob Bell, RobCast